Day #85: There's Nothing Wrong with a Good Confrontation

So I've weaved back and forth on confrontations.

Here's my final decision--provided I don't come to a new final decision in fifteen days:

There's nothing wrong with a good confrontation.

Provided I stick to the subject and not get personal, a confrontation may actually be better than the alternative.

I'm saying this because I find that when I want to confront somebody about something, and I back down due to a fear of confrontation, I end up talking about them behind their back, which leads to them finding out, and us having a much more heated confrontation anyway.

When I just address the problem right away, it's usually a lot easier.

It's funny that when I started this project I was worried about being a doormat, and now I think I'm less of a doormat then when I began.

Talking behind people's backs doesn't make you a doormat, but it certainly doesn't make you all that honorable either.

At least now, when I have a problem, I speak up--while trying to remember to stay calm and keep to the point.

Aside from that one lady in Iowa, I think I'm doing all right.